For all these generations, one question keep chasing the Human is, how to be happy always? Someone want to become rich to be happy, someone want to become king & powerful to be happy, someone want to leave away all to find happiness? Buddha is one year example; he left his kingdom, family in search of happiness.
After all, what is happiness? Happiness is at best can be defined as absence of sadness in the mind. For example, in the morning you wear a shining white shirt, you sit in A/c room for full day, you have not travelled in dusty road, but still in the evening, what happens to your white shirt, it gets soiled, stained. This is what nature is. For that can you leave the shirt like that, if you do not wash the shirt regularly, the stains will become permanent, and shirt can never come to shape again even if you wash 100 times continuously.
Similarly mind gets saddened by various happenings around you. But you can classify them into 6 major things; Death, injury, disease, insult, financial loss & fear of having all the above five. Every human born in this world has to face this in some form or other. OR so far nobody would have passed from this without encountering this phenomenon at small level or in big level.
Buddha also went to forest to do Tapas, to find why all these things happen? But finally he brought the theory how to live happily? Never he could explain why all these things happened.
Bagavat Gita is another book which explains how to live happily. In this matter, all philosophies, religious of the world, they tried to
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Fate line is in the hands of god, and nobody knows it exactly. Proper astrology can predict to some extent but not beyond. So we will never get the answer for question why? Based on fate line, we may do some actions, that is fully in our hand. On the basis of two lines – fate line, action line – the new line is drawn by the god i.e. Reaction line – that is our life.
So what is in our hand is “ACTION’. So whatever the circumstances how to conduct ourselves is what we can do but. All religious, philosophies focus on the conduct only. And they all hope, if our conduct is good, life – reaction line of tomorrow has to be good.
Before going to the conduct, we can differentiate the happiness in to two parts.
Happiness in small things – taking ice-creams even if doctor says it is allergy for us.
Happiness in big things – in earlier case, if you take ice cream, you enjoy it for a moment, but if the cold strucks, it may spoil your entire week. So if you have skipped the desire for a moment, you would have ensured disease free one week. This
Action - line |
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.... Fate line
is happiness in big things. Happiness in small things are temporary and short lived, and many time can cause problems little later. But happiness in big things is permanent and will never cause a problem.
In the conduct, whatever can cause happiness in small things have been classified as vice so, whatever is good will give only happiness in big things.
Now we will go detail in to conduct. We can decide the conduct in to 2 major categories one for mind, other for body.
For body – waking up in the early morning – drink glass of water – have good breakfast – have 8 glasses of water in a day before 8 pm – have a good lunch – have early dinner by 7 pm – less of oil, more of vegetables – less non veg – more fruits, nuts in the night – with milk – yoga, meditation in the morning, walk in evening – relax walk in the night after food – no alcohol, smoke and all injurious items to the body.
For mind - it is a very big question, because we can feel our mind only through two ways – one is through our breath – pranayama and other is through meditation – that is through our thoughts. Mediatation trains an individual to have focused attentionThere are varieties of pranayama & meditation are found by our saints you can practice any one of the above methods.
But you know our surprise thing, only two things can disturb your kind – fear, worry if goes in excess. But majority of time, it can come only through our own deeds, so if you do every action – legally morally right under all circumstances, then we will never get these disturbing thoughts. Then you will ask me how certain is all about? Certainty permanence are only the words and in reality it is never so. That why
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Chanakya, when he defined the fear – he says – it is an unacceptance of uncertainty of future
However as I told you in the beginning, if you wash your shirt regularly it will be pretty white for long time; similarly by the good conduct you can wash your mind regularly even it has the tendency of accumulating dirt, stain regularly, we can have shining mind. The shining mind will attract lot of cosmic energy, and will make you happy ever, what we call bliss.
Now we come to the small subjects, something like relationship and happiness. If you see in the movie, most of the time they show boy or girl in good group and will show as if they are so happy. But in reality, there will be no group like that. Every group will have politics, mis- understandings etc. So in school, college we should not strain to make friendship, rather like minded people will automatically come to you. In fact the mutual sharing of strength will bring more momentum of happiness. We should never worry about fame gangs, talk of the town etc. and never to compromise of our good conduct for being part of the group, because though in outside it looks colorful, inside the member it may be darkness.
Disappointments are very common in our life. You see, you go to drink a coffee at woodlands, moment you drink a coffee, you may either get happiness or disappointment. Why? Because your mind has creased expectation about coffee before you sip. So if the coffee not matching your expectation then you get disappointment. So every moment of life, every movement of life, every action of life either makes you happy or disappointed. So how to get rid of expectation setting automatically? That is not possible directly, rather your conduct, in sense your reaction line - rather your personality will
. Rather I feel worry as – un acceptance of
certainty of past. Worry is all about ruminations about future
automatically keep the expectation at moderate level so you will not get disappointment early, rather you will develop a toleration towards everything – from relationship issues to any happenings around you.
This tolerance with good conduct will give you amazing power called Satya Dharma, so you become a friend of nature, and entire Cosmo energy is behind in your action. This all things look small for you now, as you grow it will be more challenging, but you have to maintain the philosophy. Then one day you will feel, god has travelled along with you in your journey. This will make your life – an absolute happy travelling in the earth.
